So much of our happiness, satisfaction and success in life is determined by conversations which build relationships with people around us. Our income, influence, family and career are impacted by our conversations. We should know how to LISTEN when others speak and we should SPEAK in a way that others will listen to. Let’s learn the secrets of improving these two skills and become better communicators.
Look at people with love. Great communication starts when there is love. People pay attention when there is love in your conversation. Invest as much time as needed to encourage, comfort and strengthen others and to have meaningful conversations. Share their feelings not your solutions. Tune into any fear or hurt beneath the words. Loving each other like family, being kind, and pleasing others, not us, ouselvelves! Engage them with open ended questions to bring out their thoughts, to help and benefit them. Never judge anything until you have all the facts! A wise person with understanding listens more!
“Identify which part of LISTEN / SPEAK, you need to work on. Enter into conversations, focusing on that area.”
HOW TO SPEAK SO THAT OTHERS WILL LISTEN TO US.
Save the conversation for the best time and place. There is a right time and a right way for everything. Plan and speak. Intelligent people think before they speak. Everything we speak should be kind and well thought out. Empathize with their needs first speak only what is helpful for building others up, according to their need. Not what we feel. Affirm the positive alternative: Telling what they could become not what mistakes they have. The more pleasant a person is, the more persuasive his words would be. Keep calm and don’t argue.